Sister of FTM seeking support
Posted: Wed Oct 21, 2015 10:25 am
Hi there,
My now sister has just received her first prescription for testosterone. This is my first 'reach out' to the community for a better understanding of what she is about to go through. Excuse me still calling her a 'she' - i haven't adjusted yet to referring to her as a man yet.
She has always identified as gender qu*er and enjoyed doing theatrical drag king performances which I have always embraced and enjoyed however I was a little taken aback when she told me she identified as a man and she had decided to go down the path of transitioning. I support her 100%, she is my soul mate, my closest friend and I will support whatever it takes for her to feel comfortable in her own skin and most importantly...happy!
The thing I am a little confused by is that she identifies as a homosexual male. She informed me that she hasn't partaken in vaginal sex for a long time and that her sexual preference is for gay men. Has anyone else had this experience? My sister has been with men over the years to 'see if she could enjoy it' but never did. She has always been in relationships with women.
She is a very sexual person and I guess I am worried about her being accepted by gay men as a gay man and what her sexual life will look like post-transition. She lives in a very supportive and open minded community so I am not overly concerned about her public acceptance but just more on a personal level. She is an incredibly person and will no doubt build a fulfilling life around her as she has now. I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed I guess. It's all happened so fast.
Sadly she also lives around a 12 hour drive from me so i only get to see her annually. Is it weird that I want to see her one last time as woman? even though thats not how she identifies. Intellectually I know I am not losing my sister but emotionally it feels a bit like that. I know her as a person and that 'he' will be as supporting and loving to me as 'she' has been.
Anyway, it would be great to hear from anyone going through something similar. So great to have these forums to reach out for support. Thank you.
My now sister has just received her first prescription for testosterone. This is my first 'reach out' to the community for a better understanding of what she is about to go through. Excuse me still calling her a 'she' - i haven't adjusted yet to referring to her as a man yet.
She has always identified as gender qu*er and enjoyed doing theatrical drag king performances which I have always embraced and enjoyed however I was a little taken aback when she told me she identified as a man and she had decided to go down the path of transitioning. I support her 100%, she is my soul mate, my closest friend and I will support whatever it takes for her to feel comfortable in her own skin and most importantly...happy!
The thing I am a little confused by is that she identifies as a homosexual male. She informed me that she hasn't partaken in vaginal sex for a long time and that her sexual preference is for gay men. Has anyone else had this experience? My sister has been with men over the years to 'see if she could enjoy it' but never did. She has always been in relationships with women.
She is a very sexual person and I guess I am worried about her being accepted by gay men as a gay man and what her sexual life will look like post-transition. She lives in a very supportive and open minded community so I am not overly concerned about her public acceptance but just more on a personal level. She is an incredibly person and will no doubt build a fulfilling life around her as she has now. I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed I guess. It's all happened so fast.
Sadly she also lives around a 12 hour drive from me so i only get to see her annually. Is it weird that I want to see her one last time as woman? even though thats not how she identifies. Intellectually I know I am not losing my sister but emotionally it feels a bit like that. I know her as a person and that 'he' will be as supporting and loving to me as 'she' has been.
Anyway, it would be great to hear from anyone going through something similar. So great to have these forums to reach out for support. Thank you.