Transgender Forum

So, hi. I've been dating this boy for 1 year one and lately she's been talking a lot about wanting to become a female. She has always talked to me about her love for female bodies and online she makes everyone uses females pronouns to refer to her. I don't remember when i started to refer to her as ... well... her, but it was a while back and she seemed pretty happy about it. She likes when i call her princess she likes when i tell her she is a pretty girl. She often asks me how its like to have a female body and says she would like to have one as well, but then again she doesnt talk about transition, she doesnt use this kinds of words, she just look at me sometimes and goes "would you still love me if i were a girl?" or "i really want to be a girl" and when i hug her and try to assure her that, yeP, i would love her anyway, she goes "i'm serious" and then pretend it didn't happen. This is become really confusing to me and it seems it is 1000000x more confusing to her, i'd like to help her to figure out what is going on but i don't know how to bring this subject in a conversation. I don't know if one "hey do you think about transition, maybe?" would freak her out and make her go defensive about this subject. any advices?

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Hi shizukine,

that's some great advice from Casaluna. I just wanted to add my support.

It could be that she is afraid of how you would react if she brings up the subject in a more serious way or as Casaluna suggests she maybe isn't sure herself yet. Perhaps next time she mentions it you could ask a general question like 'would you like to tell me a bit more about this?'

Regardless of what hes going through, I dont think it would be unreasonable for you to send him another message now asking how hes getting on. Do you think thats something youd consider?

Just be his friend and be mental and emotional support . Nothing else you can do since this is his journey and his journey alone with his identity.