Telling your boss you intend to transition

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Telling your boss you intend to transition

Postby rachelsparrow1964 » Thu Mar 26, 2015 10:39 am

Hello everyone, What is the best way to let your boss know that your confidence is strong enough to move from being male to a woman and still be able to do the job ?

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Re: Telling your boss you intend to transition

Postby Ice Maiden » Thu Mar 26, 2015 3:06 pm

See WORK here http://library.transgenderzone.com/?page_id=116

Although this was written some time ago.

Employers with a HR department will be expected to at least have some knowledge of this issue. The Sex Discrimination Act protects you, but there are some jobs that may require very careful management. Also known as 'Gendered Jobs'. A person who presents as female during transition working in 'women only spaces' can be complicated - especially if there are cultural or religious barriers.

If you are a member of a union, then use it! 'Unison', is good, and if you look at this Union rep from 'Unite' in our video here - just hear what he has to say in our show... Remember you can join a union even if your workplace or job does not have a union as a rule. They can really help in this and are as you can see EXPERTS! Who will come to your rescue! As transition takes a long time. And people can change over time in their attitudes.

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I HAVE SET IT TO 12ms 40seconds in - listened to what this Union Rep has to say from our coverage of Trans*Pride Brighton. Hope this helps.
https://youtu.be/NMvHrthAxho?t=12m40s

If you work for a small business and are 'front of house', this can also be a problem. As 'front of house' tends to select the, bubbly, attractive, non-threatening 'types' as the face of their business to sell products obviously. And we have to accept that with very supportive employers that there may need to be some 'settling in' time whilst you get your wardrobe and 'look' together. It helps if there is a uniform of course. But sometimes early transitioners can well make some faux pas in the syle department, But it is a very steep learning curve. If you work in an office dress for business even a womans 'pant suit' as they say and slowly move over and it will slowly go unnoticed as you progress. I think if you make it clear you are open to work with the the employer and you understand that you may have colleagues who could be hostile - illegal or not, it is something we need to just be aware of.

That said I have heard great things in the tolerant workplace these days, and the women who work with you can rally around and help with your style and girls nights out and really wonderful things! :thumbup: :-) [yesss] :D

You know your employer, you know where you work, you know (but can't always be sure) you colleagues.

The law is on your side, but life is a bit more complicated than waving a legal writ in their face!

In a perfect world non of this would be an issue, you should be allowed to turn up as whatever gender you like! Maybe one day, but you are now part of that social change and the more people like you who deal with this and educate the sooner that 'Utopia' will come.

Keep us updated and we can also direct you to more specialists if needed.
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Re: Telling your boss you intend to transition

Postby rachelsparrow1964 » Thu Mar 26, 2015 11:18 pm

Thank you Ice Maiden,
I work as a rounds person delivering milk. I start at 11pm and finish around 8am most of the time I do not see anyone. It is a small company and feel there maybe a few that may make odd opinions, but its not there life. My confidence has grown now that I have a permanent job that I feel will enable me to finally allow the transition. I am seeing the doctor Tuesday to see what is available to me. I so look forward to achieving my true place in this life.
I look forward to using the forum for support you have shown already. [yesss] :kiss:
Kind regards,
Rachel Xx

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Re: Telling your boss you intend to transition

Postby Cassie » Sat Mar 28, 2015 2:19 pm

Hi Rachel,

A lot of it depends on who your boss is and you know that better than anyone.

Mine was reasonably liberal and a really nice bloke, even so it was scary as heck! I wrote him a letter and sat there while he opened it. I seem to recall he said something like "ummm congratulations" and "leave it with me". He then arranged a meeting for us both with Head of HR who's face lit up like a small child with a big Easter Egg at the thought of putting one of his policies into practice... this was Local Government six years ago. I suspect it would still work in much the same way but I imagine it would be rather more fraught now given how overworked everyone is in that sector.

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Re: Telling your boss you intend to transition

Postby rachelsparrow1964 » Sat Mar 28, 2015 3:15 pm

Hi Cassie,
Thank you for the reply. I am quite looking forward to doing it. My confidence is high and would love to keep it there. So many years have past and now I know that given the right people with understanding this will be the right time
It's my life and why should it bother anyone else's. Love my time alone but would be so so lovely to embrace the world.
Thanks again Cassie [yesss]

Kind regards,

Rachel Xx



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