We, as a society, have not created a space for men to openly express their desire to be with trans women. Instead, we shame men who have this desire, from the boyfriends, cheaters and chasers to the trade, clients, and pornography admirers. We tell men to keep their attraction to trans women secret, to limit it to the internet, frame it as a passing fetish or transaction. In effect, weâ€™re telling trans women that they are only deserving of secret interactions with men, further demeaning and stigmatizing trans women.
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