Being Married to a Lesbian Doesn’t Make Me Less of a man

[thedreadpersephone]

Great article. Here is the key paragraph for me:
'The questions I throw back at them are many: Is the partner of someone who goes through a gender transition required to alter their own self-identification? Is your sexual orientation truly determined by the shape of your partner’s genitalia? If so, where does that leave partners of trans people who haven’t undergone genital surgery? Or maybe it’s your partner’s gender identity or gender expression that determines how you should identify? What makes our right as trans people to self-identify sacrosanct, while our partners must have their identities determined for them based on particular attributes not about themselves, but about us?'


http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2013 ... n?page=0,0

[Jane_D_C]

In my experience, people's self-labels do not always quite entirely reflect how others see them. I can think of at least one woman who was in a civil partnership, but now sleeps with a man, yet she calls herself a lesbian. Many self-dentifying lesbians, especially older ones, have been married.

If a woman were strictly lesbian, she might have a problem being with a trans woman. This clearly is not in the interest of lesbian trans women.

I would therefore suggest that it does not do to get too precious about labelling sexuality.

Jane x.