Thanks for the info
Some more questions:-
Are you just dressing in the home or are you also going out? - I am sure that you will have a powerful urge to even if you haven't yet.
Do you know where your local trans-group is? Do you have any trans friends at all?
Are you self-medicating? (unofficially taking hormones you have bought)
If you are going out as Deborah :-
- then you seem to have confidence so either you Pass very well or don't care that you don't.
- you are effectively living "dual-role" ( I assume that you are working on the weekdays and that is why you dress eves/weekends.? )
- then you have already done what is to many the hardest part, presenting to the world in your new identity.
........ in that case, the steps and problems ahead are just practical ones.
To progress along the path towards changing sex/gender-role, the first point of contact is your GP. You need to go and see him/her, explain that you believe you are transsexual and ask to be referred to a Gender Identity Clinic.
Most GP's are fairly clueless about how to process a patient with gender dysphoria - there are PDF leaflets on the NHS website to help and advise them.Ask for this referral right now
, because the waiting list is very long and it could be 18 months or more before you get your appointment at a GIC.
It doesn't matter if you later change your mind and back-out, no-one will mind, they'll just give someone else the good news that they have moved forward slightly.
The GIC deals with everyone, whether they eventually want the sex-change operation or not. For those who do want the op, the route through the GIC is the only way. The GIC instructs your GP to prescribe hormones - without this instruction, it is EXTREMELY rare that a GP will prescribe as it leaves them personally open to legal liability.
Once seen by GIC and in-the-program, you will be required to live in-role 24/7 for two years, called the Real Life Experience (RLE)
They are usually prepared to backdate your start date somewhat IF it is clear that you have been living in-role successfully for some time already. Obviously that would not really be possible until you change your name, so the date at which you changed your name by Deed-Poll or Statutory Declaration is important in this regard.
I would be happy to chat to you one evening by Skype, once you have access to this forum's Private Messaging system so that we could arrange it.
- you would not have to send me video if you did not wish to
It would give me a chance to ask questions and get info to much more quickly get an understanding of how to help you along.